What kind of relationship do you have with yourself? What kind of person are you? Or do you even know who you are? Think, how often do you judge others; is it a really criticism of the other person, or a criticism of yourself?
Introspect. Find out, what makes you, you?
Don’t be afraid to dig deep into yourself. Don’t be afraid to come face to face with shadows of your life, empty roads. It isn’t about loving yourself, but gradually coming to an acceptance with yourself. Figure out where those buried emotions-- the hatred, the sadness, the anger-- all come from. Come to an understanding with them, but don’t feel forced to come to an acceptance with those emotions quite yet. Just come to an understanding, so you know from where they sprout. Live with them. Understand what you feel, understand what the cause of those emotions are. Understanding those emotions will have an impact on the understand of yourself.
“Too many tears, too many falls
It’s easy to hear behind these walls
But you don’t have to walk in the shadows...
“If only you’d let go of your fears
You’re breaking your own heart
Taking your own heart down the lonely road”
Those dark ages, all those negative emotions, they have a place. It doesn’t mean they should forbid you from having a relationship with yourself; the dark places have a home, but a home of hopeful understanding and eventual acceptance. Not one of a defiance of positivity and a shameful, demeaning manner. Yet the positives have a home too. They can sometimes be buried just as deep as the negative ones.
See where your happiness, love, and acceptance have a home.
Embrace them.
Take care of you before anyone else. Don’t break your own heart because of a failed relationship with who you are. If you strive to make everyone else feel accepted and appreciated before you make yourself feel accepted and appreciated, happiness in your own can be hard to find.
Be harsh, because you can handle it.
Constructively criticize, because you can learn from it.
Don’t pity, because you aren’t weak.
Realize mistakes, because you will be able to understand.
Feel hatred, because from it will sprout acceptance and love.
Understand yourself and take care of you before anyone else. Find who you are through examining your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. All the answers are there, save yourself from heartache because of an inability to understand where you come from. Introspection, self-analyzing, meditation, they’re all in one; you.
