Thursday, December 2, 2010

Guaranteed Impact

Life isn’t guaranteed. We aren’t promised another month, another week, another day, or even another hour. Anyone can be taken any given hour. A best friend, a loved one, a family member, no one is promised. A car accident, a wrong turn, a threat, an attack from the body, any which way, something can happen in a split second. This world, especially in today’s world, comes with chances, possibilities, changes, and risks.

Because of this, everything we do should be full of energy.

When you think, think hard.
When you sing, sing loud.
When you write, write with passion.
When you read, read as if you’re in the story.
When you smile, smile big.
When you leave, leave with loving words.
When you return, return with open arms.

Our time on Earth is limited. It isn’t guaranteed. No one knows how our lives will be lived but us. No one knows when we’ll be taken from here but God. No one can be affected if you don’t try to make an impact.

Put aside the danger of risks, because what is life without a good couple of risks?
Put aside the nag of worry, because what is life without concern for others?

Slow down and appreciate everything, but always remember to put liveliness into all things you do. Sometimes, that can be impacting in itself.

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Defeat

Don’t give up even when it seems the easiest option. Even the strongest people have had their ultimate low points. Let yourself cry it out. Let yourself punch it out. Let yourself do whatever the hell it takes to come out of a low point. Do whatever you have to do.

Don’t be afraid of vulnerability. Don’t be afraid to be weak. Don’t be afraid to be angry. Let go of all your fears. Let go of everything holding you back.

Find what’s hurting you most and grab hold of it. Grasp it with both hands and don’t let it go. Look it straight in the eye and defeat it. Don’t let it take you over. If it already has, diminish it from your mind, surroundings, life. Don’t give up on yourself. You’re stronger than that; we’re all stronger than that.

There will always be a voice in your head. Sometimes it’s right, other times it’s wrong. But what’s more important than that voice is your gut. When the voice whispers you can’t do it, your gut knows you can.

More than a matter of mind it’s a matter of life.

When you know you can do better than what your voice screams out, prove it wrong. Let it know you’re better. Prove it wrong.

Become the bigger person. Defeat your fears. Defeat the worry of not being good enough. Defeat the notion where giving up is the only alternative.

Take your goals and make them grow. Grow them bigger, greater, more out of reach. Make them so far and so big that you have to work your ass off to get to them. If you desire it enough, it’ll be well worth it. If you really desire it enough, you won’t give up. You’ll pursue it, hit it on full force, and persevere even when the biggest complications throw themselves at you.

Defeat is more than a deliberation. It’s an action.
More than a matter of mind it’s a matter of life.

Do whatever you have to do to better yourself. Go against what everyone else says. Go against the voice in your head. Be the stronger person inside yourself. Let go of fear. Let go of everything holding you back.

Go for whatever it is you want. The only one stopping you is yourself.

Monday, August 9, 2010

What You May Be

Self-realization plays an important factor in success, as we perceive it to be. It takes work to make anything happen, make anything successful.

In Piero Ferrucci’s What We May Be, he says, “The only way to accomplish valuable results in the work of self-realization is by being realistic about our human limitations.”

By working for something, by working on yourself above all things, new ideas are uncovered. Limits you have. What can really be reached and what cannot. It all comes with working with sacrifice. Putting other things aside to work on the most important thing in life. Working on something that will ultimately bring you success.

One reference from the book relates working on the inner self to a kaleidoscope. When you first look into it, the colors inside are all shaken up, all jumbled. But when you get it steady, the colors all form a beautiful pattern.

Time spent working for success is valuable. In most cases, a transformation isn’t even recognized until it’s already long begun. Therefore, becoming self aware through hard work brings you a great success.

Practice knowing yourself. Practice it hard enough and you can realistically create that happy ending that’s molded in the back of your mind. Practice it hard enough and through learning your limits, you can reach for an ultimate goal. When you get that far uncovering new things about your inner self, it pays off.

That’s when you know that what you may be depends heavily on who you are.

Friday, August 6, 2010

Just Like You

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Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Untitled

When we were little, we were always told what to do and how to do it. We had great aspirations for our future; to be astronauts, fashion designers, scientists, and princesses. We were naïve back then, everything so simple and believable.

Then, we grew up. We were given responsibilities and had to learn the concepts of trust and love. At one point or another, we’ve all felt like the world was crashing in on us. As if the whole world was on our shoulders, crushing us beneath.

When it was finally our turn to make decisions of our own, deal with everything on our own, things could have easily gotten out of hand. But that’s the concept of growing up and getting older. Whether you be lost, found, happy, sad, confused, helpless, angry, know that there’s nothing wrong with falling back to how things used to be when you were little; having to rely on someone for guidance, not having to take the world on by yourself- that isn't something to be ashamed of.

Find new aspirations and live them out.
Find the simple things in life and hold onto them.
Believe in the smallest things and pretend they’re huge.
Don’t be afraid to be naïve, all humans are supposed to be.
Take time to learn from your mistakes.
Live in fulfillment, not in just being content.

We all change our minds, dreams, and ideas. So, most of all, keep your life untitled.

Fashion designer yesterday, writer today, waiting for what tomorrow brings.

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Courage

There will always be obstacles in life, trying to keep you away from where you want to be. There will always be people who doubt you. Numerous doors will be closed, and sometimes no others will open. Sometimes all you have is yourself and it’s entirely up to you to find answers. To overcome those brick walls and make something of yourself.

In psychology, courage is broken down into four subcategories—bravery, perseverance, honesty, and zest. Bravery is thought of as completing something, despite how much fear there is in it. Perseverance is to be able to see the outcome and reach for it, no matter how difficult the journey is. Honesty, as a subcategory of courage, is more than just telling the truth; it’s being honest with yourself, who you are, where you are going to be. Zest is defined as feeling alive and displaying enthusiasm for any and all activities and is influenced by many things. Everything in life is backed up by at least one other quality. Here, courage is made up of four. Without bravery, you cannot defeat that brick wall. Without perseverance, you cannot see the probable change in your future. Without honesty, you cannot keep true to yourself. Without zest, you cannot be sure that you won’t give up.

On the contrary, giving up is an option. Sure, there’s a brick wall right in front of you, keeping you away from your dreams. Take the chance, walk away from the wall. Let it defeat you and maybe, just maybe, there will be an easier way around it. Drown in the moat of depression and grief that surrounds the wall. Fall into the hole of despair and darkness that is set as a trap in front of the wall. Just give up and don’t even give it a try. Don’t try to climb or jump over the wall. Let it defeat you, seriously. Do that, give up, and see where life takes you.

Majority of the time, giving up is easier. But without courage, without that yearning to make something of yourself in the face of trauma, you can’t get anywhere. Courage is at the center of overcoming obstacles. To identify and overcome. To be brave and honest, always persevere, and to be full of vitality. That is courage. That is all it takes to get you to where you need to be.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Dear Agony

Taking hold of your emotions is a balance between maintaining sanity and conforming to societal pressures. Some people hide them, others are dead on. It is not based on strength, it is not based on weakness. It is based off of something that we can barely control. It is based off of something complex, something that cannot be described in a word or two.

Sadness does things that which happiness can never compete. It brings you to a point of depression, for some a point of safety. It is a steady emotion. Someone who has uncovered a time of desperate sorrow in their life has much more to build them stronger. It hits you to the deepest depth of your heart and either brings you together with others or completely tears you away.

“Suddenly,
The lights go out;
Let forever drag me down.
I will fight for one last breath,
I will fight until the end,
And I will find the enemy within

because I can feel it crawl beneath my skin”

Nothing is true and nothing is actually beautiful.
Nothing is forever and nothing is really reliable.

There is no time to overcome such emotions as much as there is to fall into them. Maybe it’s easier to be sad—to have no standards, to have less expectations to be failed, to let things just come as they go and to not be let down. Sometimes it’s easier that way.

“Somewhere far beyond this world I feel nothing anymore”
Breaking Benjamin

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Structure

No matter where we are in life, we need something stable to hold onto. There must always be something to base everything off of, something to rely on in any circumstance. It’s all about having structure in your life.

It’s not to be said that structure is simple. Rather, it’s mighty complex. It is entirely based on your mindset. In so many circumstances, you may lose sight of the sturdiness of your life and your path. With a sold structure, things seem to fall into place, things seem to make sense, and you feel safe. On the other hand, have a weak structure and your life seems to be chaos. You feel lost. You feel like all you do is run and there is no finish line. No matter what you do, nothing seems to be in place.

Part of life is losing your focus and finding it again. Losing it to the point where you’re ready to break down and cry; finding it to where you’re on top of the highest mountain, screaming at the top of your lungs. When you find that brace in your life after a time of dissipation, you find a peace, a renewal in yourself.

Sometimes, structure is tied in with change. An effect of having weak structure is constant change in your ideas, thoughts, actions, and so on. You feel as if mixing things up is better than having a set plan, a set thought pattern, or a set routine. However, you seem to feel lost easily. So you change again, feel as if you’re on top of the world. In the end, you need to let it all go and find a set place you want to be. Stick with it. Begin to build a solid structure for yourself, especially if you’re nearing a crossroad in your life. Having a strong point to base everything off of in your life can change everything.

Find the right mindset and you’ll create the right structure for yourself and your life. Take that structure and apply it to every aspect of your life. Don’t be afraid to base everything off of it. That’s what it’s for. A stronghold, a solid structure.

Friday, May 28, 2010

Hatred

We hate because we don’t know where else to place our emotions. We hate because we are fearful. We hate because we have gone too deep. We hate because we love. The energy happiness takes is draining. The energy hates takes is easy. When you hate, you don’t care.

Emptiness, loss, disbelief, hostility, animosity, weakness.

“Hate is the consequence of fear; we fear something before we hate it; a child who fears noises becomes a man who hates noise.”
- Cyril Connolly

Because there is fear in the world, there is hatred. It makes dealing with problems easier. Some of us hate the people of Iraq because we fear for our lives. Some of us hate the people we should love because we fear we aren’t good enough. Some of us just hate because we can’t find any other emotion to hold onto.

However, when hate finds it’s way into our minds it’s difficult to replace. That darkness will always be there. It’s a strong emotion and has the ability to control your every thought, every move, every action. It drives you away from the things and people you love.

Scottish philosopher and historian David Hume believed that hate is an ‘irreducible feeling that is not definable at all’.

If such an emotion can’t be described, it can’t be said that everyone experiences it the same. One thing that is for sure is that at one point or another, hate finds it’s way into our lives. It is up to us to recognize it. It is up to us to attempt to fill that emptiness with something else. Doesn’t matter what it is. But hatred eats you alive. It gets in your head, takes control, and tears you apart.

If there weren’t hatred, there would be peace. If there weren’t hatred, there would be less fear. So, what do you fear? What do you hate?

The answers are probably the same.

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Comfort

You reach for it. It touches you in every way. A sheet of comfort overflows. A sense of peace radiates through your body. Your mind flashes back to a time in your life when you were filled with happiness. When things were easy. When you had someone to care for you. When you had someone bigger than you, stronger than you, take you into his or her arms.

No matter what ‘it’ is, we all need it. We all need something to hope for. We all need something to hold onto when things get tough. We all need a reassurance that we are loved.

During some point in the 20th century, Bob Greene said this:
“If you look closely enough, amid the merciless and the bitter, there is always the chance that you may find comfort and the promise of something good.”

We were not created to take care of ourselves. We were not meant to push everyone away. We were not meant to be so independent. Everyone needs someone, everyone needs something to reassure them. Everyone needs to be loved.

We were thrown into a world of corruption, hate, tragedy, and conformity. It is not, by any means, wrong for you to crave love. It is not, by any means, wrong for you to want to have the comfort as you did when you were a baby cradled in your mother’s arms.

This ‘it’ you long for, let it find you. Let it overtake you. It doesn’t matter where you are. It doesn’t matter what point you’re at in your life. If someone is giving, take. If someone needs comfort, give it.

Let a kiss on your forehead be more than a kiss.
Let it bring you back to a time of ultimate happiness.

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Strays

There are stray animals and those animals that are safe in a loving home. The strays don’t have the necessities. They search for food, a place to stay, love. Nothing is handed to them, nothing at all. At one point or another they were abandoned by their mother, owner, whoever. So they spend their life searching. Just searching. Its all they can do.

At one point or another we all feel like strays. We feel as if we have to search for everything. Sure, love may just be handed to us. But what if it isn’t really the love we’re looking for?

We have the love from our family. Sometimes it’s strong, other times it’s weak. Sometimes it hurts, other times it heals. Sometimes it’s doubtful, other times it clearly shows.

But of course, like everything else, love comes with attached strings. And ultimately, it comes down to whether you choose to be selfish or selfless.

To be selfish in love is to make it easier for yourself, to give yourself all the answers, to give yourself all the control. It’s to make someone somewhat of a prisoner or a slave, to give them no freedom. It’s to take away all the chances for someone to learn the ins and outs, rights and wrongs, limits and breakpoints of life before it hits them hard at the home run.

Or, you can be selfless in love. It’s to give freedom, understanding, space, all of which will eventually lead to greater love. It may cause worry, but that should be nothing compared to what you’re giving the other person.

We are all strays at one point or another, searching for something more, searching for the love we deserve. We don’t deserve to be abandoned. No person or animal deserves that.

So next time you see a stray, don’t just watch it, think about it, or write about it.

Get up and give it what it deserves.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

CLASS OF 2010

Seniors,

As I write this, we have less than a week before graduation. As you read this, we have less than a day before we graduate. Time is a precious thing in this type of situation. There is something you long for, something that is just a bit out of reach. Yet, you can still see it, bright and clear.

In these past four years we have grown from children to young adults. We’ve become experienced in many things. We’ve learned more than we ever thought our brains could retain and have read books that have made us want to drop dead. But all those things, each day passed, brought us that much closer to where we’re standing today.

In Baz Luhrmann’s “Everyone’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)”, he says, “In 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum. Do one thing everyday that scares you. Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours. Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. Be careful of whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it.”

Right now, we have countless opportunities to take hold of. Whereas some doors are closing, there are countless others that are opening into a bigger world. It’s up to you to grab onto one of those handles, turn the knob, and start the journey. If you don’t know which door to open, try them all. One is bound to take you to where you wish to be.

You are as good as you make yourself to be. If you don’t think you can do something, no one else will. If you don’t think you can succeed, no company will think you can either. You’re all of what you make yourself to be. Remember that.

Try and look at the positives of life because just as Luhrmann said, worrying will get you no where. Even more, all worrying does is waste precious time. If you focus more on the positives, it’s guaranteed that more positive things will happen for you. Don’t get down on yourself, but remember that if you do, there will always be someone there to help you get back up.

Out of either my sanguinity or my favoritism, I believe the class of 2010 will go on to do great things. Take life by the forefront; don’t stand in the back. After all, there’s no way to stand out and show what you’re made of, what you can do, if you happened to be cast in the shadows of those in front of you.


Always,
Kim Alfred

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Building up and Tearing Down.

We all try to protect ourselves from the outside world at one point in our life. Walls are built, there are wars, there are tears, there is death, there is tragedy, there are countless instances where we don't know who we are, where we are, or where we're going. There is a story I know, it's about knowing when enough is enough. It's knowing when to tear those walls down.

I once knew a girl who was depressed, broken, torn, devastated, you name it. She was misery, you could see it in her eyes, feel it in her presence. She wore scars from the past on every single part of her body. She had lost all hope, given up on everything, shut everyone and everything out. She had a chance to change and passed it right up. She thought she liked being how she was, it was all that comforted her.

She never thought of changing for the better; she had tried but never succeeded. It wasn't until she was left alone for the first time in her life by the people who meant the most to her, until she had experienced more downfalls than a girl her age should experience, until she broke down one too many times, that she saw herself in the future as someone she never intended to be. At that time, she tore down her walls and made something of herself. She realized that sometimes you need to be vulnerable, sometimes you need to be dependent, sometimes you need to believe more in yourself. And that girl? She's changed, and she's about to graduate and make something even more of her life.

Monday, April 19, 2010

Satisfaction

Stop for a second. Look at your life. Look at where you’ve come from. Look at how you’ve grown up. Look at the decisions you’ve made. Look at your accomplishments, look at your failures. Look at every aspect of your life. Take a second and analyze. Now, answer this. Are you satisfied?

We tend to want what we can’t have and have what we don’t necessarily want.

We all want to be loved. But with love comes so many other things. There is sacrifice and commitment and change. We all want it, but not all of us are willing to give what it takes. We all want to be trusted. Trust is far beyond any other virtue. It screams responsibility, care, comfort, and understanding. Innocent until proven guilty, trust provides. We all want to be strong. We want the strength to pull through and overcome. We want that strength. But it’s something that has to be worked on and built upon.

So, if those are things we want but can’t have in the snap of a finger, then what DO we have?

We have family to guide us. We have music to appease us. We have writing to express ourselves. We have God to pick us up when we need it. We have our life and as terrible as we think it is sometimes, we still have a chance to make a change and find that love, strength, and trust.

Take a second. Stop, and think about your life.

Are you satisfied yet?

Monday, March 8, 2010

Appreciation

When will we ever start appreciating things for how they are? When will we start realizing that even though our lives may not be perfect to us, those families who have nothing would die to live as we do? We can see. We can hear. We are completely self sufficient. We have our independence. We have people who love us. We have opportunities thrown at us from every direction, every day. We have the ability to be taught. We can drive our own cars. There are more than many people to lean on around us. There are more than many people who are willing to reach out to help us. We have shelter. We have clothing. We have food. So what’s our excuse? We should appreciate the things we have. We shouldn’t wish and wish for more.

Recently, the people living in Haiti had a devastating earthquake and who have to rebuild their entire lives back up, with nothing but a concrete slate and lack of family members around them. Here, all we do to build back up our lives is to call a contractor and a funeral home. Families in Africa see water as a gift. Here, we pollute it.

When Katrina hit, I think we all got a better glimpse of how we should appreciate our lives. Sadly, those outlooks have changed over the years since the hurricane. It was a time when we realized that even though we didn’t have the material things we loved, we still had people around us who had survived the downfall of the city.

And on that note, relationships. Nothing is ever perfect. No one is ever perfect. No relationship, whether it be friendship or something more, will ever be perfect. But there’s a time to let go of a barrier you put up, a wall that you build inside you to keep you safe and independent, and let someone in. There’s a time to step back and appreciate the amount of people around you who care for you more than anything in the world. If you do that and realize how many people look out for you and only want the best for you, I bed you’d be appalled. Get rid of all the petty bullshit and drama. No one needs that. Look at what would make your life better. Look at who would make your life happier. When you find someone you can lean on and reach out to and who will be willing to help you whenever, wherever? Then you’ve found where you should be.

We have so many things we should be thankful for, but we forget to BE thankful for them. Up there is my list. Where’s yours?

Friday, January 29, 2010

William James

William James said, "The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives."

It means that you manifest your own thoughts, your mind, and your actions. We ARE who we make ourselves to be. We can be either the master of our thoughts and life, or the victim of them. It’s all on how we hold ourselves up. You can be going through the crappiest of things, but walk around with a smile on your face. On the other hand, you can let those things defeat you. It’s all in our minds.

The ability to change yourself is a sign of strength and leadership, not the opposite. Change is never a bad thing, we just string our minds to think that change ruins our paths when it really, usually, is meant to make our paths better. Like I mentioned before, all our choices are in our minds. We change every day, but we make only a handful of extreme changes in our life. The choice to step up and be a leader can be one of those.

When I read this quote, I thought of the song Revolution by the Beatles. Then I thought about something I had written, called “Changes”. I am quite fond of this quotation by William James. I believe it perfectly describes how we should live and see things around us. It shows how we ARE who we want to be, we CAN do what we want to do. It’s just all in our minds.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

What If?

If you had one question that you wanted answered, only one, what would it be? If you had the chance to see God, what would you say? What if He was walking among us? What if He has been walking amongst us for hundreds of years and we never knew it? What if? It’s one question, but it expands to so many possibilities. If Jesus was walking among us, would he be proud or in despair? Would He try to blend in or would He walk around the earth, impacting thousands of people like he did centuries ago? Think about it. It can all trail back to those two words—what if? There lies your one question. There lies your one chance. There lies your one opportunity.

If He were living with us, how would He act? That’s a magnificent question. Sure, he may walk around in a robe and sandals. Even if He didn’t though, wouldn’t we still be able to recognize Him the same? By His love, His compassion, His gratitude, His grace. We should be able to recognize something, someone like that. He had such an incredible impact on the world. Out of all things, He sacrificed Himself for us. For you, for me. Why us, though? He could have denied us of salvation, but He didn’t. His love radiates. If He was walking among us, we would be able to recognize it easily. You cannot overlook a love like that, a man like Jesus. It would be impossible. That is, unless you wouldn’t really care about if He was among us.

The early Church had a lot to do with writings and leadership. Church today has leadership and teaches by those early writings. The most critical part of Church today would be the inadequate amount of people who are involved in the Church. Here’s the truth: there are hypocrites that are part of the Church. Most of the people are hypocrites. It is unacceptable. It is absolutely unfair. It’s the most disgusting thing I’ve ever seen. Jesus would not go up to those people who are actually following and building their faith truthfully. And that’s the beauty of it. They are praised without praise. They are silently commended. They know who they are, as do the hypocrites of the Church. They are the people who bring themselves somewhere their heart wants them to be but where their minds are not. They are the people who let their own emotions overtake the concept of right and wrong. They are trying to be leaders but in actuality are doing everything but that. You put a face on, saying you’re into your faith. Do you not agree that the most important thing about Church is honesty of faith? Imagine this: Jesus comes down to Earth and takes in what His people made of themselves, made of the world. Would he really be proud? Or maybe you’re one of those people who wouldn’t even care.

Let’s say He was present among us. Would we even allow ourselves to be changed by Him? No, not all of us. Let us think what we want. Let us live how we want. We know everything, do we not? We know the ins and outs of life. We know everything, it’s as simple as that. Right? Wrong. We know nothing. Stop thinking we do. It takes a great amount of strength to allow ourselves to be uplifted by anything, let alone a higher power. It may scare you. To let go of yourself and become one with Jesus? To put every ounce of trust into a man who gave all His love to you before He even knew about you? You can be strong enough to do that, everyone can. We are not all knowing. We just aren’t. So if Jesus were to walk among us, would you let Him impact your life, be a part of your life? Or maybe you wouldn’t even care.

To not care about something so important, so incredible, is selfish. God gave His only son to US. Jesus died on the cross for US. Every aspect of how we would react to Jesus being among us is a factor, a test, of strength and faith. Many of us have faith, but it’s merely a mustard seed. It needs to grow. It needs three things—sun, water, and love. The sun is the sight, the thought, of something so incredible. Of a God who is there to listen. Of one person who is a constant in your life, no matter what happens. The water is the tears shed. Jesus’ tears when He was tortured and nailed to the cross. His tears for us. It’s the tears we shed when we finally understand what a sacrifice He made for us. It’s the tears that we shed when the Holy Spirit swallows you, overtaking ever part of your body. It’s the tears of freedom, a freedom of a new beginning with God. The love is the warmth we receive when Jesus is alive in our hearts. It’s a burning, a yearning, a want for more. It’s an indescribable, infallible, eternal love. Sun, water, and love. All three create something more out of a mustard seed. If Jesus were walking among us, would you let him into your heart, allow Him to help build your faith?

Jesus sacrificed everything for everyone living today. He gave up His life for us, people He didn’t even know of. Still, He loves us the same. He knows us as we live. He knows us as we speak. He knows how we speak—to Him and to each other. He would look at us and wonder what our love was like and what if things were different. And yet again, it trails back to the big question of ‘what if’.

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Hello flashback, nice to see you again

January 2009,

What did I ever do to disappoint you so much? How did I mess up? Did I even do anything intentionally? Because I'm not aware of ANYTHING at all. I'm not teaming up to scheme against you, neither is she. I hate it that you can't realize that and get it through your head. You're an asshole and you know it. All you manage to do with your so-called 'nothing but the truths' is tear us down and make us cry. Then while she locks herself in the bathroom, I lock myself in my bedroom only to conjure up more things to regret and feel guilty about. How could you do this to me, to us? For the longest time, you were my only savior, my only love, my hero. I loved you more than anything in the world and always showed it in every way imaginable. I helped you learn things as you taught me lessons about life. 'Life isn't fair' was one of those major lectures I heard weekly. And now you can't even follow it yourself; understand it yourself. I don't understand. You say you love me and touch my arm when we're in the car, but only after you yell about my attitude towards you. I'm not being fussy when I speak, I'm being protective of myself. And my strength may come off to be arrogance, resent, or even hate but it isn't. It's my way of trying to build up a wall so I don't end up crying in a corner from your words and doing things I'm trying to pull away from. Everything we do makes you want to leave even more, and everything you FAIL to do makes me want to push you out the door myself. And what hurts me is that you're never going to understand that. So no matter what I have done in the past, what I do tonight, what I'll do in the future, I'll be a scheming disappointment to you. But I'm not going to be sorry until you're sorry for everything you've done to us.

(Oh, how some things never change)

Responsibility

Every single day we are consumed by our day to day responsibilities, jobs, tasks, technology, everything. Can we just take a step back and look at ourselves, look at everything around us? It’s all these marvelous works. Change is happening everywhere, every minute, all the time. Look at everything around you. Stop stressing out over things that need to be cleaned, things that are due, things that are just waiting to be taken care of. Those things can wait.

We weren’t put on this earth to be little puppets for a show. We were put here to love and to care. We were put here to understand and to guide. We were put here to learn and succeed. We were put here to create a passion and desire. We were put here to create these magnificent things, magnificent beings, magnificent futures for ourselves. If we were put here to stress over everything and be SO completely consumed in responsibilities, we would have just been placed on another planet, at another time, with absolutely no light of a future for ourselves.

Responsibility can wait. Learning to live can’t.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Little Things

You don’t realize how much you miss something until it’s gone. You think about it constantly. You miss the little quirks of a conversation. A touch, a smile, anything and everything of what once was. If you really think about it, it’s the little things that make us happy. We may try to believe it’s something more, but it’s really not. It’s a quiet walk in the park. It’s the sound of the waves crashing on the shore. It’s a text you wake up to from the one you love in the bright early morning.

It’s not all the big things. Granted, they do play a part in our every day happiness, but when it’s the little things that are gone and the big things are still there, you definitely notice a nice notch of a difference. It’s the little things that make us happy. It’s the little things that make us feel better. It’s the little things that get us up in the morning, ready to find out something new.

Little things play big, big things play little. How’s that for an oxymoron?

Thursday, January 7, 2010

Seniors, 2010

Yesterday, we were in grade school. Today, we’re seniors in high school. Tomorrow we’re going to be living our own homes with a growing family. Where does time go? Really, where does it go?

I remember being in 6th grade and I would be walking the halls of the middle school building, the place where my friends and I all thought was such a big step. We were going to be in middle school. We used to gaze upon the 8th graders and think, crap they are so old. Then when we were the top dogs of the school it didn’t mean so much. We looked upon the 6th graders, reminding ourselves of how we used to be, wondering if they saw us like we used to see the grades above us.

I remember my freshman year. I only had a couple friends who were freshmen, all the others were either sophomores or juniors and a few seniors were sprinkled in the mix. I was in JROTC, too. That was my one connection to everyone. I saw the juniors and couldn’t wait to get there. And then I saw the seniors and was thinking, crap they are so old. Seventeen and eighteen years old seemed so far away when I was thirteen, barely fourteen.

Now it’s our turn. We’re the seniors, class of 2010.

The other day I was thinking about my high school years. Each year was so distinct, so different. But there were so many parts that were the same. I remember sitting in the JROTC office with my friends like it was yesterday. I remember spending one of the last days of spring break, running with kites and writing in the sand like it was yesterday. I remember my first retreat like I was yesterday. I remember meeting one of my now best friends like it was yesterday. Things move quickly.

When someone tells you to take advantage of something because it flies by, believe them. Graduation is in four months. It seems so far away. But I know it’ll be here before any of us realize it. And when you think of all the other things we have coming up, Prom, Grad Nite.. it all makes it seem like the end of the year is moving faster. Where did all the time go? What ever happened?

This year, I have met some of the most amazing people. I have reconciled with some people who I had missed. I broke loose of others. I’ve definitely grown up a bit.

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Yesterday we were in grade school, today we’re seniors in high school, tomorrow will soon be the next chapter in our life. We’re the class of 2010 (: